Monday, October 13, 2014

Don't Judge Me!

The phrase "don't judge me" more often than not simply means that the "judged" want affirmation. About whatever they do, about what they believe, and whatever they say.

If you disagree, you are judging.
If you do not adhere to a certain belief system, you are judging.
If you suggest a more convenient way to do something, you are judging.
If you make it plain that your preference is an opposing one, you are, again, guilty of judging.

And yet....
If you don't immediately recognize pain, effort, or if you don't acknowledge each and every triumph, then you don't care. You have "abandoned" that person.

But, I say, you have taught me that whatever you do is not subject to my approval or disapproval, so I kinda just stay away. I know you are interested only in my complete acceptance of whatever you do, you only acknowledge praise. And to me, that is fake, that is partial, that is selective. Ego.

I may neither approve nor disapprove, but what I have are my own opinions. I am a complete package.

So, dear judged, it is not all about you.

Someone once said: You wouldn't be quite so concerned about what other people thought if you only knew how little they thought about you.