Gone... or gone

divorce, death....

both deal with separation, sure
both are full of all kinds of pain, yes
both leave an irreplaceable void
both darken the future, emotionally and physically

divorce -- it is possible, at some point, to lay eyes again upon the one gone; choice, yours or his; there's a chance

death -- she yearns for just one more word with the one gone, one more glimpse; no choice, no chance; at least not hers

psychologically speaking, both are losses.
but they are not the same
they do not come close to each other
everything one knows does not come out of a book or a set of statistics or the results of a study