Don't Judge Me!

The phrase "don't judge me" more often than not simply means that the "judged" want affirmation. About whatever they do, about what they believe, and whatever they say.

If you disagree, you are judging.
If you do not adhere to a certain belief system, you are judging.
If you suggest a more convenient way to do something, you are judging.
If you make it plain that your preference is an opposing one, you are, again, guilty of judging.

And yet....
If you don't immediately recognize pain, effort, or if you don't acknowledge each and every triumph, then you don't care. You have "abandoned" that person.

But, I say, you have taught me that whatever you do is not subject to my approval or disapproval, so I kinda just stay away. I know you are interested only in my complete acceptance of whatever you do, you only acknowledge praise. And to me, that is fake, that is partial, that is selective. Ego.

I may neither approve nor disapprove, but what I have are my own opinions. I am a complete package.

So, dear judged, it is not all about you.

Someone once said: You wouldn't be quite so concerned about what other people thought if you only knew how little they thought about you.

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It is not illegal to use commercial patterns to sell your own creations!

Eggbert, the Easter Egg

Eggbert, the Easter egg
Was a pretty little Easter egg.
Cutest thing you ever saw
In the window of a big department store.

All day the children came,
Noses pressed against the window pane.
Spoke to Eggbert, but alas,
Eggbert cried because he couldn't answer back.

Then all at once
The clouds rolled by
To let the sun shine through.
Believe it or not,
It got so hot,
That Eggbert split in two!

Out popped a baby chick,
A teeny, weeny, little baby chick.
And all the children heard him say:
Eggbert wishes you a Happy Easter Day!

*I sang this to my little siblings for many years. Daddy brought home the 78 LP, sung by Rosemary Clooney.

It's Not Just Decoration

Fruit in the centerpiece bowl on my table is real, you may eat it.

Stoneware pitchers on the shelf are often used for milk, iced tea, juice, margaritas...

Pretty tea cups and tea pots get rotated for little impromptu tea parties.

The rooster-shaped bottle really has olive oil in it for cooking.

Hand-stitched quilts arranged artfully over a chair or couch is just as pretty to cuddle with.

Cookies filling up the jar look great, but you may eat them; I'll make more.

The cute collection of rolling pins are used regularly to roll out sugar cookie dough.

Bathroom towels tied with ribbons are more than just decor, they are towels.

Pretty crystal goblets make any drink taste better, I think.

Just please don't use my vintage hand-embroidered linen napkins to dab your lipstick!

Duck Lips

Some things I really, really dislike:

Duck lips head the list.
Skinny jeans
Slang, like:

• like, you know .... then I was like....
• sick (to mean good)
• epic fail
• brothu, sistah

Put downs
Shaming
Assumptions
And, finally, people saying "Don't judge me!" when really, they are saying "I'm going to do what I want and you better not tell me you don't like it!"

Fabric, fabric, fabric!

A Few Words You Should Know about the Fabric Industry

First of all, the most basic terms to familiarize yourself with are “D/R” and “ROT”.

• D/R stands for “Double and Rolled” – in other words, “Fabric on a Bolt”.  This is the most standard way that fabric is shipped and usually the most cost effecient way for shipping.  However, the fact that the fabric is folded before it’s wrapped on the bolt does mean that there will be a crease down the center of it.

• ROT stands for “Rolled On a Tube” and is simply any type of fabric which comes on a roll and is rolled on in a single layer. This method does cost more for shipping since it will automatically be an oversized package.  Usually only fabrics that are 54″ wide or greater will be packaged this way, but many fabric vendors give you the option for ROT or D/R.  One noteworthy factor of the ROT fabrics is that they will not have any crease down the center!

• To sound like a pro, ask them what the “Put Ups” are for the fabric you’re inquiring about.   This is the official fabric industry way to ask how many yards come on a bolt.

Next, the majority of fabric merchants are located in New York and close their offices as early as 3:00 pm.  In addition, a huge number of the leading fabric vendors are of Jewish descent, so many will be closed for all Jewish holidays.  Both of these factors can be important to consider when trying to reach these companies.

How to Deal with the Fabric Industry/ Setting up a Wholesale Account

• First of all, you want to make sure you sound like an industry professional.  Most of these websites, even if they sell wholesale state that, “We do not sell to the general public.”
• Avoid sounding like you’re “just starting up” your business at all costs!
• Be sure you have your business license ready when you call or email, and it helps to end with a link to your website after signing off on an email to add a sense of validity to your case.
• Ask what their minimum order is, but don’t be daunted if one company’s minimum is too high for you.  Chances are good that the next company you contact will be more willing to work with you.
• I would caution you against using the term “designer” too freely about yourself.  The recent influx of wanna-be “fashion designer” students who have little knowledge about sewing or fabrics have given the word negative connotations with fabric connoisseurs! Instead, try saying, “I am the business owner of a clothing manufacture (or whatever your specialty is) company”.
• Also don’t label yourself merely “a seamstress” when talking with the vendors.  To them “seamstress” merely means someone who should be shopping at a retail store, and they certainly don’t want to help someone who isn’t a professional!

Finally, these sources listed above will not be suitable for every single fabric customer.  While many of them are terrifically helpful, others get literally 5,000 orders a day and view one more customer as “just another number”.  You will need determination to work with the fabric industry, and of course you will need to make sure that you really need the amount of fabric it takes to meet their first minimum order.  Some companies have a dollar amount, while others just have a three-bolt minimum for each subsequent order.

But if the sewing business you have started is to the point where you could go through over a couple hundred yards of the same fabric in a year, I would actually recommend going with an international source.  If you are purchasing that large of quantities, it is best to work with the overseas fabric mills directly.  Once you reach this point you have the exciting position of being able to choose exactly what weight and color of fabric you want!  The greatest resource I’ve found for this purpose is www.alibaba.com – a website which is much like a Yellow Pages of Asian fabric mills.  This easy-to-use site has an inquiry form where you can describe what you’re looking for, and within a couple of days you will be receiving quotes and product pictures from dozens of companies all over the Far East!  The minimums for using these mills is obviously quite large, but the prices are generally sold at phenomenal discounts and you have the option to choose exactly what you have in mind.   The other benefit to using this system is that you know your fabric will be re-orderable, unlike the U.S. fabric vendors who frequently discontinue items on a regular basis.

I hope you enjoy browsing these websites that I’ve linked to, and I would be happy to answer any questions you might have!  Fabric is definitely one of my favorite things, and I hope the information I’ve shared will be helpful to you!

Happy sewing,

Katrina

Do It Anyway

"People are often unreasonable, illogical and self-centered; Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives; Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies; Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you; Be honest and frank anyway.
What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight; Build anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous; Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow; Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough; Give the world the best you've got anyway.
You see, in the final analysis it is between you and God; It was never between you and them anyway."

Sounds so good, but to really "get this," one needs to apply it to one's life.
In certain situations, I feel misunderstood, overlooked, and feel that my motives are misinterpreted.

But I am going to do what I do anyway. Quietly and with no fanfare.
I get it.